6 Tips on How to Deal with the Early Stages of Adulthood

You might be at the stage of your life where you don't know what you are supposed to do or might be thinking what are the things you should have been done. You might be waking up each day, feeling of being obliged to do something that you have no idea where it is to be going. Things like getting a degree, getting a good job, travelling to far places with your squad, getting a nice car, buying your dream house, having a loving and supporting partner, planning to get married, thinking about having wonderful kids, fulfilling your parents' dream vacations, might have had crossed your mind, and you might have felt so much pressure just by thinking of these things. Pause for awhile, have a deep breath, and exhale all these worries, doubts, and pressure, off your mind. Because these things, are normal, this is adulthood. It isn't just YOU, who experience these things, but everyone else does, and they are all just doing fine. 1. Take it easy Take it easy. This, right here, is perfectly fine. In times that you don't know what to do, or don't know where you're supposed to be, is okay. Figuring things out will sometimes be a pain in the ass when everything that you have learned in school or at your home just totally disappeared. Everything that you do feels like the first time, and you would probably get fucked up. Don't worry. Take it all easy, and everything will eventually come in handy, only when you start to believe in yourself. 2. Believe in yourself At your current level, where everything seems to be going wrong, believe in yourself. It is the most vital tool you should do in order to surpass your hellish, day-to-day, fucked up world, in school, or at work. Stop telling yourself you cannot. Start little; start small. Asking someone for a piece of advice is fine, but every decision, every act, or every move you make, must be something you need to choose for yourself. Think of the worst possible scenario that would happen if you do this or you choose that. Then, ask yourself "Will I be able to endure this worst possible consequence?" If yes, then go for it, if not, think twice, or thrice, or maybe more, then maybe stop right there. Pause for awhile, but never ever take it for granted. Do it some other time, whenever it is convenient for you. 3. This is not a race You might be inspired by people like your greatest professor, or your very hardworking boss, or your top-performing colleagues, or your class valedictorian, or someone from your batch, who now, have travelled across the globe, have bought nice cars or a big house, owned up-to-date gadgets. Taking aspiration from those people who you have the highest applaud by their works or achievements, is okay, but never ever compare your progress. There is no one better, or lesser than who you are and what you have achieved. It is only you, go at your own pace. Just because others have did it first doesn't make your experience any less of a shot. This is not a race. You are perfectly tuned in to where you're supposed to be. The more you try to catch up with others, the more you are going to see yourself left out. You cannot keep following the path of others so much that you forget to create your own. But this doesn't mean that you have to be complacent and ignorant. Nothing is going to work if you don't move. Make a plan for your goals, and do all that shit in everyday of your life, until it all happened. 4. Live your life to the fullest Relax. You are going to achieve your dreams. You are going to travel to places you've always been desiring to go with your loved ones. You will converse and interact with people of different races and different languages. You will experience different culture at its finest. You will meet people who are far different from you and some who are very similar to you - people you might like and not like. You will encounter people who will belittle you or judge you, and you will meet people who will inspire you, motivate you, and believe in you. You are going to learn from each one of them. You will hear their stories, get to know what inspires them, or what frightens them, and you will be able to relate to them. And once you experience each one of this, you would realize that there is always more to life than any of your worries, and problems. 5. Embrace pain; accept what you cannot change. There will be darker days - where you will feel pain, sadness, and discomfort; but there will be days that you will feel happy, alive, and ecstatic. You will fuck up sometimes, make mistakes, feel tired, restless, misunderstood and get ragged; but you will realize that it is okay to fail. You will tell yourself to rest on the days that you lack motivations, feel the ugliest, or have the smallest hope; but you are going to acknowledge to yourself that giving up is never your best solution to make. Times will come that you will be lost along the process; but you are also going to find somewhere there. You will exert so much efforts pursuing